What will they think?

Hi all, sorry for no update in the last week, we have been moving into our new home, not that we had much to move in, I mean, we are starting from scratch, so, that really says it all.

Now the subject line, it will be thought provoking for the intellects amongst us and perhaps puzzling and frustrating for the not so intellectual. I have mentioned it before in this BLOG so some of you may well have read it, others, well enough said.

What it is, is this, it does not matter what others think or even say about you, its none of your business anyway, and if for some reason someone is hell bent on letting you know how they feel about you, it is generally because of their own short comings as a person. If of course you are concerned about how someone else feels, or what someone else is saying then you have already given the power away. I choose not to give the power away, I could not care less what people think about me, it is only narrow minded people that operate like this anyway. Small minded people who are not worth your time.
No one has the power to make you feel any particular way, unless of course you give them permission too. Permission too, I can hear most of you out there saying,
"I never give anyone permission to make me feel bad or unhappy!"
I do not necessarily mean literally going to telling someone that 'you now have my permission to make me feel bad' not at all, what I mean is that by not taking responsibility for where we are in life right now, and passing blame to someone else we are inadvertently giving who ever the power to make us feel a certain way. Lets take falling in love for instance, there is a certain chemistry that generally occurs and causes us to seemingly lose control of our emotions, therefore the object of our affection ultimately has the control of how we feel, if we are rejected, we feel upset and let down, if we are accepted, we feel happy and elated.
This is a fairly simple example, and it could be said that we are emotive when this sort of thing happens, this is my point exactly, when we make a decision emotively we in effect lose control of how we feel, thus giving the power away.
Now this may be a very hard fact for some people to come to terms with. These are the people I would suggest that have some work to do on themselves, until they are ready to take responsibility for where they are right now, and stop blaming someone else, then they will forever stay there.
Here is a scenario;
Lets say we were driving to work, we go the same way we always do, however today is different, today we get side swiped by someone that has run a red light.

Now, are we responsible for this?

If you answered yes, then you are absolutely correct!

If you answered no, then unfortunately you are wrong.

Now, note what was asked, 'are we responsible?' I did not say whose fault it is, and there is a big difference.
It may well have the been the other persons fault, however we still remain responsible for what has happened here, after all, we could have taken a different route, we could have taken the bus, there are a number of things we could have done to avoid the situation.

I am going to leave you with two things to think about;

• We are all responsible for where we are in life right now. Due to choices we have made and actions we have taken.
• No one has the power to make us feel any certain way unless we let them.

I have certainly made my share of mistakes in this life, and I am sure I will continue to make mistakes, you know what, I am happy about that, why? Because without the mistakes there is no learning, and as long as I have learnt from my mistakes (and believe me I have) then I have accomplished something and anyone that tells you otherwise is an idiot!

Until next time!